Harsh words can destroy relationships. In the heat of the moment, when our emotions are intense, we can say things that can permanently damage relationships. Even if we try sincerely to repair, the damage may not heal.
Harshness becomes a resort for us when we want to achieve an objective but feel unsafe or taken advantage of or feel that we have been treated unjustly. Our emotions in such situations often accumulate and these emotions are carried in our words.
With meditation and practicing awareness, we gradually relive these experiences and as the emotions are released (over many years), we develop a more neutral perspective and do not need harsh words to express ourselves or achieve our objective.
Though the healing of our consciousness is the way to make our speech permanently better, but until then, we can also take the middle path and learn better words for common situations.
Saurabh
